If you worry too much, you are a worrier par excellence.
Some people have a lot of vague fears. They have a constant feeling of
apprehension. They never feel at peace or rest. They fret and fume. The meaning
of fret is to gnaw or devour. Gnawing anxiety is familiar to us. We know how
good it would be if we could stop it and prevent the sapping of energy.
So the first thing we must do is to sort our worries and
cut them down to size. Every worry we poses has it exact counterparts which
someone has somewhere dealt with effectively.
Every person suffering from excessive anxiety must first
of all accept the fact that anxiety will disappear only when we face it on an
adult level, a level of reality. Know your enemy and face up to him. Every fear
grows if you run away from it.
You must be careful not to confuse worrying with planning
for the future. If you planning and the present moment actively will contribute
to a more effectively future, then this is not worry.
Then this is one zone that you must tidy up. Since you
are just wasting those precious present moments, there’s no positive pay off
for you. You may be a professional worrier creating unnecessary stress and
anxiety in your life as a result of the choice you are making to worry every
conceivable kind of activity. Or you may be a minor worrier concerned only
about your own personal problem.
In order to eliminate worry, it is necessary to
understand the reason behind it. If worry is a large part of your life, it has
many antecedents. Thoughtful consideration is reasonable and often necessary
but worry is simple a harmful waste of energy. Worrying over things we can't
control is simple a harmful waste of energy. Look at the problem that faces
you. Is there anything you can do about it? If there is - face the problem,
it's that easy?
If you are worried about something that you can't
control, directly or indirectly, decide how you can best live with it. Take
your time; think it through - but think positivity. Think in terms of pluses
not minuses.
Everybody has problems, but the really matured and well
adjusted persons face those problems; they don't simply worry about them.
