As I walked through the doors of the local child care institute, I was met with a mixture of smiles and tears. The children, ranging from toddlers to teenagers, were all united by a common thread - they had been abandoned by their parents.
It’s a harsh reality that many of us choose to ignore, but the truth remains that there are parents who don’t care about their children’s well-being. They leave them in institutions, often without a second glance, and move on with their lives.
As I spoke with the children, their stories poured out like a river of tears. They longed for the love and care of their parents, but it seemed like an unattainable dream. Of course, Child care institutions offer a holistic development environment, providing children with opportunities to: Learn music, yoga, and sports, develop skills through vocational training, enhance cognitive abilities through games and activities, build social skills through group interactions, receive personalised care and guidance unlike other children. However, the children, on the other hand, are left to pick up the pieces of their shattered lives. They struggle to understand why their parents don’t love them enough to stay. They wonder if they are to be blame for being abandoned.
One child, a bright-eyed 8-year-old, asked me, “Why doesn’t my mom love me? What did I do wrong?” The question pierced my heart like a dagger.
To prospective parents, we urge you: do not bring children into this world unless you’re willing and able to provide a stable, nurturing environment. The consequences of neglect or abandonment can be devastating, leaving emotional scars that last a lifetime.
Before considering marriage or starting a family, ask yourself:
- Am I financially stable to provide for my child’s needs?
- Do I possess the emotional maturity to handle parenting’s challenges?
- Can I prioritise my child’s well-being above personal desires?
- Have I addressed my own emotional baggage to ensure a healthy relationship?
If you’re unsure or answer “no” to any of these questions, reconsider your decision. Children deserve better than to be brought into a world where their basic needs may not be met.
To those already struggling with parenting responsibilities, know that support is available. Reach out to local resources, counselling services, or support groups for guidance.
Let’s break the cycle of neglect and prioritise our children’s well-being. Remember, parenthood is a privilege, not a right.
Take the pledge:
“I will not bring children into this world unless I am prepared to provide a loving, stable, and nurturing environment.”
Let us not forget the forgotten innocence of these children. Let us be their voice, their hope, and their safe haven. Together, let’s create a brighter future for our children.
Peheutingyibe Herie
Social Activist