(June 15 is World Elder Abuse Awareness Day)
[dropcap]S[/dropcap]ushma, 70, whose abode is an old-age home in the national capital, blames her daughter-in-law for her plight, but for 65-year-old Kamlesh Gupta “lack of emotional support” is the main reason for shifting to an old-age home. And there are some elderly who like the “security” these homes offer.
A 2013 Help Age India report said that more than one-fifth of the elderly, around 23 percent, are known to have experienced abuse in the form of disrespect, verbal abuse and neglect - and some have even faced beatings and slapping. Experts however point out that none of the elderly likes to be vocal about such domestic abuse.
Another HelpAge India survey in 2013 suggested that daughters-in-law are the main culprits in abusing the elderly. It said daughters-in-law - 44 percent - are the worst abusers of the elderly at home, followed by daughters (32 percent) and sons (24 percent).M.C. Chacko, president of the Ozanam Home for Aged in north Delhi, however said that daughters-in-law can’t be held responsible for the old people’s plight.
“The orthodox thinking is equally responsible for their plight. Many in-laws expect their daughters-in-law to perform domestic chores rather than work. This thought makes it a one-sided judgment,” Chacko told IANS. The home houses 30 elderly.
For Gupta, a retired bank officer, his son and daughter-in-law weren’t able to give him much time because of their tight-work schedule. This lack of communication and emotional support prompted Delhi-based Gupta to move to a reputed old age home.
Sheoran too felt this “sense of independence” is a matter of pride for many elderly.
“They feel lonely at home. So they prefer the company of people of their age,” Sheoran said.
“They want to feel independent. There are many restrictions at home: they don’t get meals on time or they have to time their schedule as per their working family members. So, those people who have worked all their life are used to their own ways of lifestyle,” she said, adding that they therefore choose to live away from them and visit them occasionally.
A joint report by the United Nations Population Fund (UNFPA) and Help Age International in 2012 said India has around 100 million elderly and the number is expected to increase to 323 million by 2050, constituting 20 percent of the total population.
There are no concrete figures for old age homes in India, though their number is estimated to be more than 1,000.
