In many of our communities today, critique is often misunderstood. If we appreciate someone and later point out a weakness, we are quickly seen as negative or unfair.
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Liba Hopeson
In many of our communities today, critique is often misunderstood. If we appreciate someone and later point out a weakness, we are quickly seen as negative or unfair. At times, people feel that once appreciation is given, critique should not follow at all. Some even feel that critique cancels out appreciation. As a result, people hesitate to speak honestly, fearing they may hurt others or be misunderstood. This creates a culture where truth is often avoided in the name of being kind. But when we turn to the Bible, we discover a very different model—one that is both truthful and loving.
A clear example is found in God’s messages to the seven churches in the book of Book of Revelation (Revelation 2–3). The pattern is striking. God does not begin with criticism. He begins with affirmation. He recognises their labor, perseverance, faithfulness, and endurance. His commendation is real and specific, not superficial. He sees what is good and acknowledges it openly. Yet, He does not stop there. He goes on to say, “But I have this against you.” This shows that genuine appreciation does not exclude honest critique.
Importantly, God’s critique is not harsh or careless. It is purposeful. He points out specific issues—loss of first love, compromise with false teaching, moral failure, or spiritual complacency. His words are clear, but they are never meant to destroy. Instead, they are meant to awaken. His critique is direct, but it is never cruel. This teaches us that true critique is not about finding faults for its own sake, but about guiding people toward what is right.
Another important element is that God’s critique is followed by a call to action. He urges the churches to repent, to return, and to renew their commitment. He does not leave them where they are; He calls them forward. This shows that critique should not leave a person in despair. It should open a path for change. God always gives hope. He offers a way forward, along with promises to those who overcome. Even His warnings about consequences are not meant to frighten aimlessly, but to prevent greater harm. Warning, in this sense, is an expression of care, not rejection.
This pattern is consistent throughout Scripture. In the Old Testament, the prophets often spoke strong words of correction, yet always with the intention of bringing people back to God. In the New Testament, leaders like Paul also corrected churches and individuals, but with a pastoral heart. Their goal was never to win arguments, but to restore lives. Good critique, therefore, is rooted in truth, guided by love, and directed toward restoration.
What can we learn from this? First, we learn to appreciate genuinely. Before we critique, we must see and acknowledge what is good. This builds trust and shows fairness. Second, we learn to be honest. Avoiding critique is not kindness; it can lead to greater harm. Third, we learn to be constructive. Our goal should always be growth and restoration, not condemnation. Fourth, we learn to give hope. Every critique should carry the possibility of change and a better future. Fifth, we learn to speak at the right time and in the right spirit, not out of anger but out of love.
At the same time, we must also learn how to receive critique. Not every critique is wrong or negative. Sometimes, it is a sign that someone cares enough to speak the truth. If God Himself critiques those He loves, we should not be surprised when we are corrected. Instead of reacting defensively, we can listen, reflect, and grow. A humble heart turns critique into an opportunity for transformation. In our context, many church leaders become defensive when they are critiqued. There is a strong mindset that anointed leaders must not be criticized. Because of this, we build defensive walls instead of listening. As a result, the church may not grow as it should. Civil societies are not an exception to this reality.
In the end, love and critique are not opposites. In fact, true love sometimes requires critique. To only praise and never correct is not genuine care. Silence in the face of error can even become a form of neglect. God’s example shows us a better way—a balance of affirmation, honesty, warning, and hope. If we learn this art, we can become people who speak truth with grace, helping others grow while also growing ourselves.